and you do have to go through the bad to get to the good. without the bad, it’d be unclear as to how good good is.

After my big breakup with someone I still feel to be my soulmate, I believed that I would never find someone who can make me feel complete and at peace.

The thing about life is that in the beginning, we can’t afford to be picky. For the most part no one reveals who they are at first. Not you nor the other person. Going with the flow, living life day by day always gives a good idea of whether or not something clicks there.

At the end of the day though, you have to know who you are, what you have as a person and what you need to make you feel whole. Like Erin said, you wouldn’t know what’s wrong, when you don’t know what;s right. More so in yourself, when you look into the heart of someone else.

The only advice I can offer you is to jump right in. You may hit a few bumps in the road — a few boring dates or sizzle-free kisses — but when you meet Mr. Forever Right, you’ll know it.

Now that you’re older (feeling ripe at half a century?? ), I bet you have a much clearer idea of what you’re looking for than you did 5 years ago. It’s almost an unconscious decision your psyche makes – you’ll meet a guy, go on a few dates, and feel a connection. He’ll have all or most of the on-paper stuff right, and you’ll vibe well with him… you’ll just feel that it’s right. But in the meantime, try and have a little bit of fun dating and playing the field, insofar as a serial monogamist can do that. After all, if you don’t know exactly what Mr. Wrong feels like, it’s much harder to know when Mr. Right waltzes in.