Why is it that we will keep numbers in our phone long after we will ever call those people back?
Last night I went through my phone and purged, getting rid of old numbers and old contacts to people that just don’t have a place in my life anymore.
As you scroll down the list of names, you give yourself a reason whether or not to keep the number. Them? No, I’d like to go a year without them please. Him? I didn’t return his calls the last two times he called, and really am not planning on it in the future. Her? I’ll probably email her before I ever call her.
It’s a hard decision for me to remove numbers from the cell phone, especially because I so rarely have those numbers anywhere else. Once they’re gone from the phone, I’ve got no way to contact most of them, because surprisingly I’m not so up on getting everyones email addresses. If these people don’t call me, I’ll likely never hear from them again.
Now is a good time in my life to reevaluate the relationships I do have; I’ve been in Chico for six months which has shown me who I want to keep in contact with, and who wants to keep in contact with me. If I can’t remember the last time I talked to a person, and have no desire to talk to them any time soon, it’s a good sign that it’s time to let them go.
It’s hard to let go though, to think you might never talk to a person again. Their number in your phone is a tiny hold you have on them, the potential to connect at any moment. By deleting a phone number, you’re deleting them from your future.
it’s time I look to the future. I’ve been living too much in the past, trying to pretend I wasn’t growing up and growing apart from a large number of people. I’ve tried too much in the last few years to hold on to what I thought was important, only to find out I was holding on to a idealized memory that has more of a home in the fiction I write than the life I lead.
Deleting phone numbers from the cell phone is only a beginning. The true purging comes when I can delete people off of my IM lists, remove them from my Facebook, and stop carrying the extra baggage from a life I no longer lead.
– “That’s What You Get,” Riot!: Paramore
I made a new rule. If someone hadn’t called me in a month, or been in contact in anyway, they’re out. They obviously don’t have the time to stay in contact, and it’s nothing personal because I know how life gets: busy. I’m not gonna be all hating on them next time I see them (maybe never) I just know that everyone has different paths in life, and sometimes we run together but paths can and do break and go their own way.
Obviously that little piece of your heart will always be gone, but there’s no need to pretend anymore.
=) congratulations on moving forward
well, that’s not fair. I don’t like phones so I never talk on mine, but you’re still my friend!
don’t worry, shep, you’re still in the phone. how else would i randomly lick you? we don’t call often, be we txt more than i talk to others.
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