Comments on: And just stop putting so much stock in all of this stuff. http://unsympathetic.net/2006/04/25/and-just-stop-putting-so-much-stock-in-all-of-this-stuff-2/ Easily distracted by shiny things. Mon, 16 May 2011 20:43:00 -0700 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.3 By: lisa http://unsympathetic.net/2006/04/25/and-just-stop-putting-so-much-stock-in-all-of-this-stuff-2/comment-page-1/#comment-61 lisa Wed, 26 Apr 2006 00:00:24 +0000 http://unsympathetic.net/?p=72#comment-61 Oh, I've already looked into it.. You can't be a surrogate mother unless you have already given birth to a child, and are currently rasing it. I think I could give up a child if it wasn't biologically mine, because I could separate it from being a part of me, or being along for the ride. But that's just me. I know a lot of people couldn't do it. And Dustin doesn't want me to ever do it, so it will probably never happen anyway. I was just looking for an excuse to be pregnant more than once, even though I only want one child. Oh, I’ve already looked into it.. You can’t be a surrogate mother unless you have already given birth to a child, and are currently rasing it.

I think I could give up a child if it wasn’t biologically mine, because I could separate it from being a part of me, or being along for the ride.

But that’s just me. I know a lot of people couldn’t do it. And Dustin doesn’t want me to ever do it, so it will probably never happen anyway. I was just looking for an excuse to be pregnant more than once, even though I only want one child.

]]> By: Sachi http://unsympathetic.net/2006/04/25/and-just-stop-putting-so-much-stock-in-all-of-this-stuff-2/comment-page-1/#comment-60 Sachi Tue, 25 Apr 2006 23:51:34 +0000 http://unsympathetic.net/?p=72#comment-60 OMG, seriously... have a baby before you decide to do the surrogate thing. I'm a pretty stable and rational human but when I got pregnant and then the pregnancy was no more (found out on the same day that I was pregnant and that I wouldn't be anymore), I knew right then that I would never be able to carry a baby to term and give it up... just based on the emotion I felt that day. OMG, seriously… have a baby before you decide to do the surrogate thing. I’m a pretty stable and rational human but when I got pregnant and then the pregnancy was no more (found out on the same day that I was pregnant and that I wouldn’t be anymore), I knew right then that I would never be able to carry a baby to term and give it up… just based on the emotion I felt that day.

]]> By: lisa http://unsympathetic.net/2006/04/25/and-just-stop-putting-so-much-stock-in-all-of-this-stuff-2/comment-page-1/#comment-59 lisa Tue, 25 Apr 2006 23:04:01 +0000 http://unsympathetic.net/?p=72#comment-59 You - I didn't really mind holding her all night. I just wish I wasn't left out of the conversation. Not that there was one. It's like I wasn't a person anymore to them, just the baby holder. And I better not have to hold your baby while you're off having fun. I'd rather have the fun with you. Sachi - I totally understand that too. My brother repeats over and over that he doesn't want kids, yet all the little ones in our family flock to him like he's god. I think the want to have babies is directly tied to the want to have YOUR MAN's baby. I think I'd be perfectly okay to not have children if I wasn't with Dustin. I know I didn't even think about babies until he brought it up one day. Except, of course, that I want to be a surrogate mother, because I know I'll be happy while pregnant. And if other people want to have babies, I'm all for helping them. You – I didn’t really mind holding her all night. I just wish I wasn’t left out of the conversation. Not that there was one. It’s like I wasn’t a person anymore to them, just the baby holder. And I better not have to hold your baby while you’re off having fun. I’d rather have the fun with you.

Sachi – I totally understand that too. My brother repeats over and over that he doesn’t want kids, yet all the little ones in our family flock to him like he’s god. I think the want to have babies is directly tied to the want to have YOUR MAN’s baby. I think I’d be perfectly okay to not have children if I wasn’t with Dustin. I know I didn’t even think about babies until he brought it up one day.

Except, of course, that I want to be a surrogate mother, because I know I’ll be happy while pregnant. And if other people want to have babies, I’m all for helping them.

]]> By: Sachi http://unsympathetic.net/2006/04/25/and-just-stop-putting-so-much-stock-in-all-of-this-stuff-2/comment-page-1/#comment-58 Sachi Tue, 25 Apr 2006 21:55:33 +0000 http://unsympathetic.net/?p=72#comment-58 You want to hear something disgusting? I never wanted kids. Everyone told me I'd change my mind. It made me really mad when people told me that. How the hell do they know. I got married to this man of mine. My second marriage. I'm turning 30 soon. I want babies like you wouldn't believe. I want many. I want to steal everyone's babies. Have I said much? No. I don't want all those people who told me I'd change my mind to be right. *hrmph* You want to hear something disgusting? I never wanted kids. Everyone told me I’d change my mind. It made me really mad when people told me that. How the hell do they know.

I got married to this man of mine. My second marriage. I’m turning 30 soon. I want babies like you wouldn’t believe. I want many. I want to steal everyone’s babies. Have I said much? No. I don’t want all those people who told me I’d change my mind to be right.

*hrmph*

]]> By: YOU http://unsympathetic.net/2006/04/25/and-just-stop-putting-so-much-stock-in-all-of-this-stuff-2/comment-page-1/#comment-57 YOU Tue, 25 Apr 2006 21:53:25 +0000 http://unsympathetic.net/?p=72#comment-57 Im sorry Lisa. If you didnt want to hold the baby that long you should have said something. I thought about you being stuck there with the baby, but the only reason i didnt say anything was...... well its not my baby. I felt like it was C's and L's job to get up and take care of it. When i have a baby one day, i promise not to make you hold it while i play video games :) Im sorry Lisa. If you didnt want to hold the baby that long you should have said something. I thought about you being stuck there with the baby, but the only reason i didnt say anything was…… well its not my baby. I felt like it was C’s and L’s job to get up and take care of it.

When i have a baby one day, i promise not to make you hold it while i play video games :)

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